Making decisions has never been something I enjoy and I am starting to feel like the outcome of one’s life is all about making the right choices. How do you know what is right and wrong? I seriously don’t have any idea about how to answer that question but what I do know is that life can’t be planned.
Every time I have felt the urge to make a decision something else has come in my way and I have felt it would be better to take the other road than the one I had decided to take. I don’t know if that is a way to make a decision or going with the flow of life. I have let life be decided for me and sometimes I find myself not happy with where I am but I feel a calm voice telling me that maybe this way was better.
I still don’t know if I am on the right track, sometimes I see signs telling me to keep going and sometimes there are only red lights and stop signs saying I need to wait. So I wait. It is not always fun.
I have taken detours and it took me longer to get through certain experiences than others. Eventually, I would move on, going slowly and uncertain but nevertheless moving forward. It is good to take a little break every now and then but if you keep on hitting the breaks every two seconds you won’t make it as far you want to go in the time you wish.
Aging is a humbling experience and it has been a journey to get to where I am today. I didn’t have a clear image of where I would be by now. But sometimes, I can’t help but wonder where I would have been if I had chosen another road through life. And then, I remember that had I not stopped along the way I wouldn’t have gained all the knowledge and insight about myself. I am still learning but what I wish I could have told my younger self is;
The road through life is only an experience, nothing is permanent so be kinder to yourself and enjoy the little moments of love.
What do you wish you could have told your younger self? I would love to hear what your story is and how you navigate through life. Please leave a comment below and let me know how you make decisions in life.
Thank you for the interesting post.
I’m not sure anything ever goes as planned. There’s always some aspect that wasn’t accounted for or an unexpected surprise that pops up.
The only answer is a time machine and, even then, if you go back, you’ve changed your own history so you’d never go back in the first place to fix whatever it was that didn’t happen because you fixed it and so on. I suppose that’s one way to live forever, in a constant loop.
That’s really a hard question. I guess, for me, it would be to go back and tell myself that it does get better. Maybe toss in a winning lotto number or something. I often look back and wonder what if…what if I dated x instead of y, what if I took that job instead the one I’m at now and so on. Those are questions that simply can’t be answered.
In the end all we can do is move forward and do the best we can based on the information currently available.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It is like you say, if we change X then Y will disappear and the questions we ask about our past can’t be answered. A winning lotto number would be great but the only thing we can do really is to move on and do the best with what we have at the moment.
I do agree with you that it can be difficult to know what is right and what is wrong sometimes. My younger self wasn’t always that responsible. I know that if I hadn’t done or been through the things I did before, though, I wouldn’t have gotten to where I am today. I am pretty happy with who I am now. It’s been a hard road, but I think it’s been worth it. But, if I were to speak to my younger self, I think I would have to tell her to trust in the decisions I made. Don’t doubt. Things may happen that may be rough and I may want to give up, but don’t. It’ll pass. I’ll be stronger because of it. And it’ll be worth it. I would tell her to hug my children more. And lather the kisses on them, and to watch because they are always older with every passing minute. And it’s still going to go by too fast.
So nice to hear that you are happy with where you are right now. And I loved the advice you wanted you younger self to know. I hope it is never too late to hug your loved ones…
When it comes to making life choices, I think all we can do is go with our gut feeling. It’s not always right but it’s not always wrong either. I guess we don’t find out where that choice leads to until we get further down the road.
In my experience, the road seems never ending because one choice leads to another. It’s like we are always coming to a crossroad in life, with no destination. But as they say, “life’s a journey”.
I think we are meant to have roadbloacks too, in order to help us grow, which is why other things get in our way.
When we really look at life under a microscope, the road ahead is always winding and hilly. There’s no such thing as a flat and straight road. If there was, life would be unchallenging and get pretty boring, in my opinion.
Thanks for the inspiration. Neil 🙂
Going with your gut is another way to navigate in life. Life really is a journey. We just have to be better att reminding ourselves of that.
Good content about life questions. Some people just don’t take any moment to see how their life is going. They just let it be like nothing can be done. But that’s not true. By understand how you what decisions or steps you have taken, you need to know from where you started to be able to ask you the real questions to your own self and improve in the future.
All roads lead to rome, that’s true. But what if you know what made you felt that way during a moment of your life? What if that emotion can be changed in the future if that situation comes up again? How you going to react? Finding what excite you, moves you, motivate you can be the key to success. It is just my point of view. Like Tony Robbins said once:
Emotions comes from motion.
An example of that type of experience that you are talking about on your post happens is when you do things on a specific way (all planned) compare to do the same task/thing the way you feel it. Some things left unplanned brings more emotions and joys to us than when everything is planned from A to Z.
Enjoying every moment of our lifes is something that more and more people dont due in this so fast interactive world these days.
I would have tell my younger self to be more open to new things and life. My 20s werent as good as my 30s and that’s because I was leaving my life as straight as possible with no experiences at all. This has drastically changed the way I life my life now.
Yes it is true like you say living life and not planning to live life is actually better. Learning to enjoy every moment is the key to true happiness I think.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.